The Components of Writing a Clap-Your-Hands-Over-Your-Mama’s-Eyes Sex Scene (Giveaway)

Posted May 7, 2013 by Shari in Book Tour, Excerpt / 0 Comments

OMG! Whew! Well.

First, imagine your hero and heroine/ I mean real images. I often surf the web looking for people who resemble them. Once I have that, and I’ve fleshed out their personalities I can tell what kind of sex they like. For example, my alpha males are very often Doms. I have made trips to dungeons to observe and raced home to make notes n everything. Then I build scenes from those notes, drinking lots of ice water while I’m doing it.

I also try to put myself in the place of each of the characters, to feel what they do, think what they d. How my own body would react. More ice water!

I try to make the scenes flow natural. And one of the most important things is to use all five senses. I did a lot of research on how to stimulate each of the five senses which helps when constructing those scenes. Remember, senses and sensual start with the same four letters. What arouses a woman? A man? Do I need ice water or a glass of wine to write that?

I also, especially if I’m writing BDSM, surf the web for pictures and videos. You cannot believe what’s out there!  “Squirm! Squirm! “ So I actually take notes then try to see what fits with a particular scene I’m writing. And also what I can save for another scene.

I try to keep it real, also. I mean, some things I’ve read are so extreme I wonder if they can actually happen. So while some of my scenes are extreme, I try to keep asking myself, would this actually take place this way?

One thing I’ve had to do is learn not to be uncomfortable with the explicit language. It is what it is. But I used graphic words where they are appropriate and not for shock value.

And then of course there are my infamous Barbie dolls. I had an editor edit a scene that she told me was physically impossible (a ménage). So I went out and bought two Kens and two Barbies and they often “act out” scenes for me.

And finally, I make sure that every action, every touch, had a purpose and hope it will stimulate the reader as well as the characters.

Pass the ice water and the wine, please!

Buck Naked by Desiree HoltBuck Naked
by Desiree Holt

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Sometimes out of the frying pan and into the fire is the best way to burn.

Naked Cowboys, Book 2

Amy Stark has it all together—except for chronic bad taste in men. She’s firmly in hands-off-all-men mode when a flat tire forces her to accept the help of exactly the type of man she’s sworn off. Arrogant, cocky and condescending.

When she runs into him again later that day and then finds out her brother has invited him for dinner, the fire between them has a sizzle of a different kind.

At eighteen, Buck Montgomery left home to make his mark on the bull-riding circuit. He may have had wild success in rodeo but his personal life is in the dust, and while he’s ready to start a new life he’s wary to expose his heart. Buck knows he should tell Amy the truth, but every time he opens his mouth, hers is right there with kisses like molten lava.

When his past resurfaces at the worst possible time, Buck can only wonder if Amy will love the man he has become…or if the man he was will chase her away.

Product Warnings: Contains barnyard language and clap-your-hands-over-your-mama’s-eyes sex between a cowboy with a checkered past and a ranch girl with all the right moves


Amy ran her finger around the rim of her mug. “I understand you met our new neighbor. Buck Montgomery.” She made her voice as casual as possible.

Matt looked at her with curiosity. “Yeah, I did. How did you know?”

“I met him at the auction.” She didn’t see the need to tell him the flat-tire story, or the fact that just the short time she’d spent with him, only minutes, had given rise to erotic fantasies in her dreams that made her squirm when she remembered them. “He, uh, seems very nice.”

Her brother leaned forward on his elbows. “He is nice. He bought the Hayes Ranch and plans to increase the stock and bring it back up to the level it once was.”

“He must have a lot of money,” Reenie commented. “As we all know, ranching’s not cheap.”

Matt shifted his gaze from his wife to his sister and back again, his face nearly expressionless. “I believe he had a nest egg he cashed in. He’ll be running pretty close to the bone for a while, but I have a feeling he’ll make a success out of that place.”

“What do you know about him?” Amy asked. “Where did he come from?”

Matt laughed. “Amy, if you’re so interested, why don’t you ask him yourself?”

“Yes,” Reenie chimed in. “In fact, let’s invite him over for dinner.”

Amy drained the last of her coffee. “Are you sure that’s such a good idea? I mean, he seemed nice enough, but what do you really know about him?”

Matt snorted. “Damn, Amy, how much do I need to know to be a good neighbor? I’ve spent a little time with him twice, and I’m pretty sure he’s not an ax murderer on the loose.”

“That’s not what I meant, I just—”

“He’s a neighbor,” Matt stressed. “Since when did you become so antisocial?”

Since I had an unwanted physical reaction to the man. And dreams that I can’t seem to control.

“Fine.” She pushed back her chair. “Fine, fine, fine. Call him and invite him over. You can do your famous barbecue steaks.” She rinsed out her mug and put it in the dishwasher. “I have some errands to do in town. I promised Hank I’d ride fences with him this afternoon.”

Hank was the oldest of their hands, the one who’d been here the longest. He’d been the one to put Amy on her first horse and to show her “which end of the cattle eats and which end craps,” as he’d so colorfully put it.

“You know you don’t have to do that,” Matt pointed out. “You’ve got records to bring up to date and the monthly weight-gain reports to get out. And Hank just wants an audience for those tales he’s told a thousand times.”

When their parents had decided to move New Mexico, she and Matt had split up the responsibilities of the ranch. She took care of all the paperwork, which he hated, and he served as the actual foreman, supervising the hands and overseeing the daily care and feeding of the cattle as well as maintaining the fences and outbuildings. But when she was younger she had often ridden fences with Hank, listening to his. She figured by now she was the only one left who’d put up with them.

“I’m good,” she told him. “And sometimes it just clears my head to ride along with Hank.” She picked her keys up from the counter. “See y’all later.”

All the way into town, she couldn’t seem to get Buck Montgomery out of her head. She’d hardly spent much time with him, and half of that she’d been royally pissed. But the image of the man just lingered in her brain, not to mention what thoughts of him did to her body.

Wait. She was an intelligent thirty-year-old woman not given to stray erotic fantasies. Especially about men she hardly knew. It was bad enough when she fantasized about men she did know and they all turned out to be assholes. But lordy. There was just something about Buck Montgomery that set her pulse to pounding, her blood to racing and every hormone in her body to waving a flag.

She reached the center of town almost before she realized it, and considered herself lucky to find a parking place on Main Street. The entire time she did her shopping, Buck Montgomery occupied her thoughts. She was so distracted by the time she stopped at the office-supply store, she picked out some items she’d purchased the week before. The salesman jokingly asked her if she wasn’t a little young for her memory to be fading. Finally, she decided to stop and get something to eat. Maybe a full stomach would make her brain behave better. But as she went to open the door of Bit and Bite, a hand reached out ahead of her.

“Allow me.”

There it was, that deep, rich voice that haunted her dreams and sent shivers skating along her spine. And made the pulse deep inside her body throb hard and fast.


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Shari is the Delighted Reader. Married to her Prince Charming and mother to two Princesses and one Prince. When she is not slaving away as Cinderella she loves to get lost in the pages of a good book. Never without a reading device and a few good paperback books, because she never knows when she might get 5 minutes to read!

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  • Melanie J

    I love Desiree’s books! Can’t wait to read this one!

  • Rhonda D

    I just bought this book today and can’t wait to read it. I love Desiree and Stark Naked is one of my favorite books.

  • Kim M

    Never read this author, but sounds very good. May have to invest my next purchase.

  • June M.

    I must get STARK NAKED and BUCK NAKED….Sexy, naked cowboys are HAWT 🙂

    • June M.

      Forgot email: manning_J2004 at yahoo dot com

  • Diane R

    Love the excerpt

  • Sharon Chalk

    wow,I have never been a big lover of cowboy books,maybe because I spent part of my childhood on a farm with horses and had to clean stables and stuff and know its a hard life,but since Ive discovered cowboy in erotica form,it has made me rethink a few things about cowboys,specially since I live in Kansas and there are a lot of cowboy types around here,boots and all.Maybe Ill start looking instead of overlooking lol

  • Natasha

    Thanks for the excerpt and the chance to win!
    Sounds really good!!
    natasha_donohoo_8 at hotmail dot com

  • Amber

    I cant wait to read this one!

  • bn100

    very nice excerpt

    bn100candg at hotmail dot com

  • Joanne B

    Thanks for the fun guest post, it gave me a lot to think about, and for the great excerpt.
    Congrats on the new release.

  • Vanessa N.

    I think it’s cool that you do research first and only put scenes that make sense to the story. sometimes i’ve read stories that authors just put anything in eventhough it doesn’t make sense .

  • Gail D

    I love finding new authors and new books to read. I also enjoy hearing how they research them.