Yakkety Yak: The Insecure Blogger

Posted June 19, 2016 by Shari in Yakkety Yak Let's Chat / 25 Comments

Yakkety Yak...Let's Chat

It’s been a while since I have done a Yakkety Yak. 2014 and 2015 wasn’t the best year for me, but I decided I wanted to make 2016 better. When I read the article, Word from the Herd–the Insecure Blogger by Anna at Herding Cats and Burning Soup, it hit me hard and touched upon a lot of my own insecurities and some that I have learned to let go.

To be honest…no matter how successful you are or what your goals are for blogging, you will always have insecurities. It’s how you deal with those insecurities that make you a happier person. I am going to touch upon some of Anna’s insecurities and then touch upon my own. Some of these cross over.

I fret like hell over FB follower numbers.

Anna admits she frets over her FB numbers. You know Facebook has so many problems that you never quite know if you are doing good there or if you really suck. I am happy to say that Herding Cats & Burning Soup is doing awesome on Facebook according to me. She has been around 4 years and is close to 4000 followers. Compare that to Delighted Reader which has been around 5 years and has 1800 followers. Now I know Anna works her ass off posting some of the most interesting articles or questions on her page. I actually respond to a few from my personal account. Recently Anna created a FB Group due to low views on her posts.

So why do I not have as many followers? Mostly because I can’t stand Facebook. Second reason, is my posts reach around 6-8 people. I stopped putting the effort in to getting more followers and even trying to reach my followers after FB decided no one would see my posts unless I gave them some money for advertising or boosting a post.

I am a stay at home mom with no income besides what my husband brings in. So I just don’t have the money to invest in Facebook to boost my posts. I refuse to do it. So if I don’t find new followers on Facebook, well, I just don’t care. That probably isn’t what readers want to hear, but it all comes down to me wanting to see followers here on the site and not on FB that I rarely even look at.

Will I ever worry about my FB numbers? Probably not since I have found FB to be the most unreliable social media place. I find I get more followers from Twitter. I have tried a few other social media outlets, but I just don’t have that much social time in my life to keep it up.

So I applaud Anna for all her hard work. She does an awesome job on Facebook and I will always follow her posts.

Then there’s my Blog Name.

We all have a love/hate relationship with our blog names. Do you know Delighted Reader is the third blog name I picked? The first one is the one I wish I had stayed with…Scrumptious Reading. But I switched hosts and couldn’t get it to switch and had nightmares so I dropped it. Then I picked Seduced by the Book. And there was a site already called Seduced by a Book. One word difference, but it was enough to cause headaches. Delighted Reader was the last ditch effort and really I thought I would have stopped blogging with it by now.

About a year ago, I thought about changing the name. Do you know how much it costs to switch things around? More than no income can pay. Buying a new domain name, new header and graphics, letting publishers know you changed, trying to keep all  your followers, etc. It just becomes too much of a hassle.

Delighted Reader doesn’t have an iconic image. No cats, demons, food, romance, sex, beaches or anything that really relates. All I can think when I see my own name is old fashion doilies. Yep, doilies. Then Delighted Reader doesn’t cry out romance books. I think I get as many requests for non-romance books as romance books at times because it is so unclear. Seriously, I hate the name Delighted Reader and just can’t get into loving it. But…I have tried to use it more often in thinks like Afternoon Delight…you know that quickie you get in the afternoon like a short novella?

Getting Quoted ::snort::

Congratulations on getting quoted Anna! It’s exciting I know. Where do we sign up to get quoted more often? No telling. I think Delighted Reader has been quoted 3 or 4 times. Although I haven’t seen any of them…*scratches head* I must go searching for them now.

It’s exciting to see your hard work put in print of an authors book….quoted *squeals* But don’t let it get you down if you aren’t. Some bloggers work with authors, some are established, some also write professionally on other blogs. They tend to get the quotes. Don’t let it bring you down, just keep plugging away and make sure you have something that is short enough to be quoted!

Ah…no thanks.

Oh, this is probably one of my biggest insecurities. Being told no. No I don’t want to be on your blog. No I can’t help you. No I just don’t like your blog. Then I see them on someone else’s blog doing what they told me no.

Solution, well, not the best one, but the one I am going with right now. I don’t ask any more. I tend to be shy and introverted. So asking is in itself a tough job. Then you tell me no then show up somewhere else, well, then I retreat inward and don’t want to come back out of my shell.

Now Sophia Rose has been my rock on this one. She seems to be so nice and ask authors to do stuff left and right. And they say yes to her, lol. Without her I probably would be lost at times.

More insecurities? Get a life Shari!

Yeah, I have some of the same insecurities as Anna, but she rocks an awesome blog. Wonder what else I am insecure about?

Blog design.

When you start, you want that shiny, new blog that makes people come running to you. But unfortunately I have no design capability. Nada. *snickers* I have mostly egg shell colored walls in my house. Well, the contractor only let us have 3 colors. We had two kids who wanted their rooms certain colors. I wasn’t going to have blue walls everywhere or tan. So we went with a neutral color. 11 years later, I have painted both kids rooms again and the dining room. That’s it. Why? Well besides being a lousy painter, I have no eye for color coordinating.

Throw in I am dangerous with Photoshop. I took classes when I actually worked and know how to use the tool. But fonts, colors, placement, oh, it all gives me a headache. I can’t create anything from scratch. So I paid for some images at first and tried to make it mine. Looked horrible. Then I paid for a service which did awesome, but I moved the blog and it didn’t move nicely causing me so many headaches.

So now I look at that blonde woman every day and hate her. After all I went through to get her. I hate her. So I look and change and look and change things. Growing ever more irritated the blog just can’t be sparkly and beautiful.

And I wonder who really likes it because I am not getting much in the way of views.

Page views.

So like, I was getting barely any readers for two years. Then *bam* I was a featured blogger and had to go out and get authors to visit my site with interesting stuff. This is where I got told “NO” so many times. My page views doubled. And the week after the conference, they plummeted. It was like a switch went off and I lost over half of the readers I had coming to the site.

*Lifts arm and sniffs* Nope, I took a shower. I swear!

So I obsessed with page views for about a year before I finally made myself only look once a week or I was going to go nuts. But I sit here from time to time wondering what I am doing wrong. The quick answer? I don’t have connections and I don’t do enough gift card giveaways. Giving away books…will get you your regulars and maybe a few new readers who may or may not come back. Giving away gift cards…that gets you in every time, but you have to keep giving them away or you lose those brand new readers who just want the gift cards. And then there are people with connections. I mean they make a living writing, maybe not the novel, but publications and do blogging on the side. They seem to get more viewers.

I may be totally off my rocker. But that’s my take on it and I still struggle not to be so insecure over how many readers we have. Why? Because the ones we do have are awesome and I love trading comments with them.

Not enough time in the day.

The balancing act. How do working moms do it? I used to work, take care of kids….and….the laundry was always still in the basket, the dishes piled up and the carpet covered in dog hair. I was lucky to get supper on the table and homework done.

Now that I don’t work…well, I get the laundry done (most of the time), dishes only pile up on weekends (most of the time) and dog hair still rains supreme, but I won’t let the vacuum give up.

So why do I bring this up? Well, my kids grew up after I lost my job and I added another for a grand total of 3. One is all about dance and it seems like from Jan-June I am never home on the weekends. Throw in child number two who loves Destination Imagination (Google it) and went all the way to Globals. More practices, running and cash outlay. Child 3 has development problems which I have to do a lot just to get them ready for kindergarten next year along with driving a hour for their doctors appointments.

Why do I bring this up? Well, I think Anna has to be a goddess when she does all the blogging by herself. Yeah, she doesn’t have kids, but she has a herd that are like kids. She has a beautiful site and always something new. And I wonder if I can even format a review for the next day.

I live week by week on the blog. Seriously. I just barely get it covered each week. If it weren’t for Sophia Rose, Delighted Reader would have folded by now. Seriously. Seriously. Seriously! She is my rock.

Why again do I bring this up? I think I am a failure as a blogger. I don’t know how to keep up and it eats at me some days that I just am not cut out for this.

But I resolve to make 2016 a better year and to get back to why I wanted to do this in the first place. Stop worrying about numbers, and worry about making quality posts. Easier said than done, but I am working on it!

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Shari is the Delighted Reader. Married to her Prince Charming and mother to two Princesses and one Prince. When she is not slaving away as Cinderella she loves to get lost in the pages of a good book. Never without a reading device and a few good paperback books, because she never knows when she might get 5 minutes to read!


  • First of all, Shari *BIG HUGS*!!
    I don’t think my own blog will ever be one of the ‘big blogs’, but I’m quite happy with my own little corner of the internet anyway. And I’m pretty sure you impact people much more, and probably in different ways, than you imagine! When I was at BEA, some bloggers I had the chance to meet in real life complimented me on stuff I’d never have thought of – and it was a nice feeling! Much, much nicer than page-views – and equal to getting comments 😉
    I hope you’ll be able to continue to blog at your own speed, and with Sophia Rose’s help, just be you! One of the things I love the most about Anna is that she’s so genuine. If she doesn’t like something, she lets her followers know. If she loves something, we all know it, too.
    You have over double the FB followers I have, and I’ve been blogging for four years, too. I do most stuff with my personal FB account now, though, and just share my posts with my blog page.
    I’m sure you’ve been nervous about people reading your post, Shari, so more hugs, and thanks for sharing the stuff that makes you feel insecure about blogging.
    Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews

    • Shari Delighted Read

      Thank you Lexxie! *hugs back*

      I really don’t need my blog to be a big one because then comes more pressure! I just wish I had a few more readers that what I get lately. I have a lot of loyal readers and I adore them. In the end that’s really all I need when I force myself to look at what I want vs what the media hypes I need.

      I envy you on BEA! I will probably never get a chance to go, but I am ok with that. I hope to go to RAGT next year as I was on vacation this year and had to skip it.

      Anna is so great! I love her witty reviews and how she puts it down when something bothers her. I also have disagreed with things but because we love books we don’t snipe. I really don’t ever want to get in an argument with anger, so I love commenting with her!

      Sophia is a goddess with writing and reading. I would be lost without her. She boldly goes where I will never step, lol.

      I really have given up on FB. I post my reviews there but nothing much. Until they can explain their reasoning behind not showing my page to people who follow, I can’t be bothered to pay for their advertising.

      Yeah, I was nervous when I wrote this. In fact I wrote it a long time ago and it sat there with me never hitting schedule. So I finally sat down in May re-read it, tweaked it and added more to it and forced myself to say it all.

      Thank you for commenting!

      • RAGT sounds great, too, Shari! I absolutely love Lori Foster, and she’s the main author behind RAGT, no? She’s so sweet, and I love all her stories.

        I would never give FB any of my money! If I have extra money, it goes to plane tickets for book events… or to buy more books… or to pay someone help me pretty up my blog 😀

  • Look at you, bravely putting this all out there just like Anna did. Steady wins the race and I think that is true of the average blog/blogger. I think you do many things well even if it doesn’t feel like it from your end (see my upcoming Yak Yak on what I learned from my Blogger 101 class, LOL). And I’ve got your back even when a few fickle authors and publishers say ‘no’. 🙂

    • Shari Delighted Read

      You always have my back! It’s never easy to open yourself up like this, but I wrote the post a year or more ago and couldn’t get myself to publish it. So with the mini-blog ahead I forced myself to look at it again and put it out there. I love you girl!

  • oh I admire you Shari!!! I am like you though, I have many insecurities when it comes to blogging as well. For myself it hasn’t helped that I switched from blogger to wordpress, my followers dropped by almost half. I try not to worry too much about facebook though, you have way more than I do and I have been blogging for six years. This past year I haven’t been as focused as I used to be on social media and commenting. Just haven’t had the time The first years of blogging I had way more time on my hands. I haven’t had too many authors quote me in their books yet but I have had 4-5. And yeah I have no idea how Anna is so accomplished because she gets so much work done. I have learned that big numbers arent as important to me as they used to be. I have a small circle but a wonderful one including you and Sophia!!! As for design it has taken me five years to develop one I love!! hehe I am so horrible at it, but eventually I found my way but I love what you guys have on here though. Your header is so classically pretty. Love this post though, seeing someone else have similar insecurities that I do!!

    • Shari Delighted Read

      I am taking a step back from social media. I get too hooked and when I don’t see the numbers I freak. So I am taking a more laid back approach that if they come to the site, great, if not, their loss.

      Anna accomplishes so much I don’t know how she does it. I don’t think she sleeps!

      I paid for the design about 3 years ago and I just feel it is kind of generic. I recently had a new logo made, but I am totally less than happy with it and the designers know that.

      • LOL I don’t sleep much. I have lots of sleep cycle issues so will be up those wee hours when everyone else is down and do a little blogging 😉

        • Shari Delighted Read

          Wow, I don’t envy you that problem. I guess with my kids I am very regimented on sleep as I have to get them down at a good time and then up for school. If I don’t sleep then, then I lose out on it. Because my son has development and behavioral issues, I have to drop him off and pick him up from school, so I very rarely get to take a nap unless I do it in the morning. Summer will allow me to catch up on a few things.

          • It’s not the best thing but you learn to live with anything, right? I go a few days with hardly any sleep then have one like today where I was down for 13+ hours. And now 3am and I’m wide awake. lol No kids here so that definitely helps. The herd thankfully (even when I had dogs) just goes with the flow.

  • I remember Anna her post about this topic and I think all us bloggers have insecurities like this. To be honest I never would’ve guessed you had these doubts as your blog always seems so well put together, you always seem to have a new post live or multiple when I go and visit and your blog looks so professional.

    I have been blogging for almost 4 years now and I only have what 750 followers. I am lucky if 10 people see what I post there. I mostly set-up things automatically so my posts still get there, but I don’t do much with my facebook page anymore. I do try with Lola’s Blog Tours, but that page has even less followers. I see some very successful pages on facebook and I just don’t know how they manage it. I try not to let it get to me, but it’s hard sometimes.

    I always liked your blog name, although I do get the worrying about your blog name and design. I always worry about mine, I mean I have a cute-ish pony (I don’t even watch my little pony) as my logo and Lola’s Reviews. It just seems so lame at times and I review all types of genres and am afraid my blog design doesn’t reflect that. But on the other hand I don’t really want to change it. I am one of those familiarity is good people, my blog looks familiar to me and I don’t want to change it, while at the same I worry about it. Weird huh?

    Being told no is one of my insecurities as well, I don’t dare request review copies, unless authors specifically are looking for reviewers or things like netgalley. I just don’t well with hearing no. It makes me feel like I am not good enough. It’s so frightening to actually ask for them. I recently got a review copy for a book from one of my favourite authors and I just couldn’t believe they actually approved me to get a review copy.

    I don’t worry about getting quoted too much usually, but I do get insecure about my reviews sometimes. I mean they just aren’t quote worthy. I am way too analytical and go into depth in my reviews, but I don’t have enthusiastic quote worthy sentences. And I always believe that’s why no one quotes my reviews and it makes me even happier when someone does. And then I worry if people like my style of reviewing.

    I also suck at photoshop, I had this brilliant idea to make my own banners for my tours and it just didn’t work out. I just didn’t get it, I even paid for photoshop and only then realized I couldn’t figure it out. I am so happy to have found an awesome banner designer (Michelle form Because Reading/ Limabean Designs) who does all my banners for me. I can’t express how grateful I am not to have to worry about that. My business is also something I worry about or feel insecure about or how much I should mention it on my blog or if people find it annoying when I talk about tour business everyday. And I don’t want people to feel pressured to participate in my tours or anything, I just want to share about them where I can, so i try and keep it low key on my blog.

    And I worry about having enough posts scheduled, if I am not ahead enough I start stressing. I don’t want people to come to my blog and see no new posts. And then I have a busy week like this and fall behind on some things and I feel so bad. Comments is another big insecurity for me, i worry about when I get few comments, I worry about not replying and comment backing enough.

    Sorry I turned my comment in a whole blog post almost, but I just want you to know that I get it and I think all of bloggers have these insecurities. And I think it’s great you shared about your insecurities here, because sometimes it’s nice to know we’re not alone in these worries.

    • Shari Delighted Read

      We try to have one new post a day, but sometimes when a date comes we have so many new releases that I try to keep in the same week. Like upcoming July 5, we have so many books releasing that week, I am sure I will have to double up.

      I just have gotten to the point where I have to stop watching the numbers or I will go crazy. I am an introvert at heart, so getting this much out there is a big deal for me.

      We all are insecure about our designs even though others think it is fine. I just have to learn to let go a little more.

      Getting quoted is so past for me. I used to think it was the end all, but lately I see the same names over and over so I don’t trust that the publishers are getting new quotes or even quotes from other places.

      I have thought of doing a tour business, but then I realize I have a hard enough time keeping up with a blog, so I ditched it. I have a slight background in design from when websites didn’t have much design. So I just look up tutorials and try my best!

      When I have 10 books out on NetGalley, I feel like a weight is on me to get it all done in time. So I have spent the last year trying to keep it to just a few books and fill in with my TBR. The stress was taking the fun out of reading. That was a big key for me in 2015, was trying to reduce the stress I was creating for myself.

      No problem on the length of the comment. Sorry it took me a few days to respond back. I was dance recital weekend and Father’s Day so I am just getting caught up again.

  • I have a fb page for my blog too, but the only real reason I did it is because one of the freebie sites I get some of the free products I get to review requires you to have one. I have just under 100 followers but it allows me to get some free products to review, so I’m fine with it.

    Oh my gosh, I made my blog with three other yahoo group friends about 11 years ago and I named my blog, Dark Thoughts because at the time I was in a deep depression and I complained a lot about jut about everything. lol I got used to my blog name and didn’t ever think that I would have almost 300 followers. The name has stuck so I’m not changing it. There’s nothing wrong with the name of your blog, I love it.

    I like the blonde woman on your blog, she reminds me of the blonde woman who used to be on the really old bottle of Clairol Herbal Essence Shampoo from back in the 80’s. I don’t know why it reminds me of that but it does and I loved that green shampoo. lol

    I stopped looking at page views even though I love that some of my older posts still get quite a few of them. It’s so strange, the posts that I never thought would get hundreds of views are the ones that do. I think I need to have more discussion posts because those seem to get the most comments. I love your blog so keep up the good work, both of you. 🙂

    • Shari Delighted Read

      Thank you Mary! FB is the devil for the most part. You never know what they are doing to screw pages owners in to paying for promotion. I help admin a page for my local dance studio and FB constantly asks me to pay to promote it.

      I started Delighted Reader by myself mostly as a stress reliever. I has just lost of my job and miscarried twins a few years before along with having my son soon after. I loved being a stay at home mom, but I needed something adult related to keep me sane when I was lost in 3rd grade Hell, a baby at home and a soon to be teenager going on 40 in the house. I have always read and got my first Kindle when I was on bedrest. So I thought, what the Hell, let’s give this a try to see if it helps me.

      Haha on the blonde lady. I am blonde with curly hair, but no way as good looking at this woman. I want a blue streak in my hair, but my hairdresser won’t do it for me. So I get to live through her how I would look if in my dreams.

      Page views are subjective. This post has tons of views and mostly our discussion ones do. Reviews, not so much unless Sophia has a good one. Mine usually get just a few comments. It is what it is. I just can’t stress over it any more.

  • My solution is to not caring anymore. lol. I don’t even remember the last time I checked page views. I don’t even mess with FB anymore – at least the blog page.Gah, my blog name bugs me though. I deeply regret incorporating my name in it. I only post like 2-3 times a week, so it cuts down on stress and time. Great post, Shari!

    • Shari Delighted Read

      Not caring is what I subscribe to lately. I do this for myself, so if you want to read great, but I am not going to cry because I don’t have 1000s of views. I think I just got sucked in the hype of blogging and wanted to be at the top for a while. Once I stepped back I realized it wasn’t really what I wanted at all.

  • I think you do a great job, Sheri. I think many of us have insecurities. For the most part, I don’t look at stats. I post my reviews. People with either read them or they won’t. I only post twice a week on Hot Listens and once a week on Rabid Reads. I don’t look at stats on either. I do see the number of comments. I do like the number of comments I get. I love being able to interact with people about the books I’ve read. The posts are posted on Google Plus, Facebook and Twitter. I mostly interact on Twitter. I have enough stress in life to not have it from my hobby. That is what I use to keep this down. I hope you will find a way to lower your stress, but I think you’re doing a great job. Keep up the good work.

    Melanie @ Hot Listens & Rabid Reads

    • Shari Delighted Read

      Thanks Melanie. You still probably write more reviews than I do. Some weeks I don’t have one review. I am just going to be ok with that since I have 3 kids and sometimes I just don’t have time to read or write a review. So it is going back to a hobby. The good thing is Blog Ahead I did work hard, but now I have most of July covered and I can go swimming with my kids without have to rush a review in.

      • That is a great way to look at it. I don’t have kids and I can listen to books while I’m at work, so that is how I keep up. If I wasn’t able to listen while I do some of the really tedious tasks at work, one, I would go insane from boredom, two, I wouldn’t be able to get through nearly as many books as I do. Sometimes I even read short books for RR just to fill that slot. Luckily, I read a ton of Eve Langlais books, which are usually under 200 pages and are quick fun reads. I’ve also started reading Graphic Novels which are pretty quick too. I agree with you. Keep it as a hobby. I’ve missed some days on HL and I just shrug it off. Life will go on. Have a fun summer. 🙂

  • Debbie Haupt

    Great post Shari, btw I love your blog name. I too share many, many of the same insecurities that Anna mentioned (she’s one of my faves too) and the ones you shared also. I happen to LOVE FB, I spend waaaayyyy too much time there posting, visiting, messaging, chatting, participating in events, yeah you get the picture. My blog turned, are you ready, 6 on St Patty’s Day. Since I’m also an editorial reviewer I usually don’t get told no but that has never bothered me when I have, what does surprise me is when I’m told yes by really famous name dropper authors. 🙂 Yeah I used to fret over stats, now its kind of stats, smats you know. So my blog has evolved, grown and sometimes is the monster of my own creations. The one thing you nailed is that we all have insecurities and the one lesson I try to live by is be true to yourself first and always, its your blog and this is the ONE thing in your life you have total control over. xoxo Love yours and Sophia’s Posts too!!

    • Shari Delighted Read

      Thank you for loving my blog name. We all have insecurities and nothing will be 100% perfect in our thoughts even if others think so. Glad you like FB, but their algorithms have been driving me nuts so I had to step away. Thank you for all the kinds words!

  • I hear ya, Shari. I hear ya. You know all my insecurities and honestly I still struggle with most of them. I really think most bloggers do even if they don’t talk about it. We’re putting so much of our time and our personal thoughts into posts and it’s nerve wracking just like I imagine it is for authors putting their books out there and hoping people will love em. And comparing to others. Yeah. That gets me too. I’ll admit I’m seriously jealous by how many reviews yall can do in a month. I do a lot of non book posts to keep mine up daily.

    I love your lady. I think she’s unique and when I think of your blog I see her 🙂 I know that doesn’t help with personal feelings but figured I’d add in my 2cents. lol

    At this point I’m trying to remember to just blog how I want to blog and to be okay with that. If I need to skip a day…it’s okay. I ignore stats as much as possible. Getting posts up on a regular basis even if not every day is a check in the success column to me. From the outside looking in yall are doing awesome 😀

    • Shari Delighted Read

      Oh, don’t be jealous of how many reviews we have, lol. Sophia is a reading goddess and gives me 75% of the reviews on the site. When I was solo blogging, I did a lot of memes and tours to fill in spots. It didn’t help me get viewers so much so I slowed down once we were able to have 2 posts a day. We at one time had 10 reviewers. Well, Sophia was my first co-blogger. I added a friend to help, but she had some life issues she had to leave to take care of. Then I had another one for about 2 years before she just left with no warning. I deleted each and every one of her posts because I felt betrayed. I added 4 at one time and none them were reliable and I found one posting her reviews on another site when the reviews were requested from our blog. So I got burned quite a bit and now just love that I have Sophia Rose to keep me going!

      After a lot of feedback, I guess the lady is staying. I just don’t like the genericness of everything around her and the tan background.

      Just blog the way you want. I get blasted by authors not in the romance field for not reviewing their books, but that isn’t what I started the blog for and I won’t back down from that. I have learned to ignore the stats as well, but I am pretty sure mine are way lower than yours, lol. Sophia sends me reviews all the time and I have to admit I am the bottleneck to my site. But I keep chugging and trying to think of new events to keep us interesting.

      • That’s something I’ve never really done–have associate reviewers. I’ve had Sharon over at I Smell Sheep do like 2 review but those were things she wanted to review but were too naughty for her blog. But nothing on the regular. I don’t think I’d be able to handle that well and gah yeah I know others who have had the unreliable reviewers. So frustrating!

        My cat has a lot of generic with it too. Every once in a while I change out the background but just never been able to find anything different so I figure just go with it.

        Oh annoying with the authors not in romance. Meh. I do a non romance one every once in a while but stick with romance. I’m glad I’ve not gotten growled at by people. Makes no sense. Just go to another blog, ya know?