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Hi all!

I’m not really going to do a discussion today.  I’m actually just wanting you to know that I’ll be away from the internet and even reading for about three weeks starting Sept 22nd.

I learned this past week that my grandmother has passed away at the venerable age of 94- the last of my grandparents that was still living.  Her health has been declining over the last few years so its not a complete surprise.

She was an interesting person.  You’ve heard of the artistic temperament?  Well she had it.  Art was her gift, after all. She won local art awards and gave back even late in her life by teaching arts and crafts at her local senior center and the community center.  Bowling was another interest and she used to be part of the Seniors Pro Bowling Tournaments.

She was not the typical grandmother when I was growing up- she wasn’t fond of cooking or baking and barely did housework. She did not want grandkids spending the night though a day visit was fine, but she was generous and caring in other ways- always supporting our endeavors.  Her home was a wonder to a small child and I was fascinated by the things that came from all over the world especially Asia, since that is where my grandfather’s merchant marine work mostly took him when he was alive.  She loved to dress in kimonos around the house and dance to oldies.  Yeah, the Twist in a kimono is a sight to see.  LOL

I will be participating in the funeral along with some of her other grandchildren.  She had several children and saw her grandchildren’s grandchildren come into the world so it will be a large family gathering.  And loud- we’re Sicilians.  LOL

Afterwards, I will stay on at her home in Northern California, and help my folks and the aunts and some cousins sort and clean out her house.  The house had to be signed over to the state as part of how we got her medical bills and extended hospital and then care home covered beyond her insurance.  The cleaning out will not be pretty.  She was a clinical hoarder in her last years.  At least there were no pets, and the aunts had started the organizing and picking up of some of her things after she was put in a care home.

So, I will fly into Salt Lake City and join my parents on the drive out to California.  We’ll be without wifi and I very much doubt I’d have time to use it even if it was available.  I’ll miss visiting blogs and chatting books, but I do want to be with my family and helping out during this time, as I’m sure you can understand, so I’ll see you all when I get back.

Are your grandparents still alive?  Have any fun stories about one?  Anyone else have a quirky gran?  Do Tell!

–Sophia Rose

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I was born and raised near Sacramento, CA. I have read since I was four years old and developed tastes that run the gamut of literature. I went away to college and have a degree in education, a certificate in family history research, and a certificate in social work. I worked for a non-profit agency with low income families for 20 years which included being responsible for the children’s library and promoting/teaching adult literacy. I have lived in Southeast Michigan for the last 18 years and I am currently a book addicted homemaker with a cat and husband who keep me grounded. Recently, I made it a challenge to review each book that I have read as a favor to author friends who said reviews are important. I have done reviews for Good Reads, Amazon, eBay, and Smashwords, but mostly at Goodreads and Amazon.
  • Your Grandmother sounds like she was quite the character and led an interesting life. I am really sorry for this huge loss in you and your family’s lives. One of my grandmothers died less than two months before her hundredth birthday. She was the perfect Southern belle, but was from Michigan. They wintered in Florida-maybe that counted! She was all about manners, and she could teach any animal to do what she wanted. She even had a squirrel that would eat from her hand, and when she stayed with us one time she had one of our dogs rolling over on command-a dog that had never done a trick in her life. Not a quirk but kinda fun to remember that. We will all be here when you get back. Sometimes it’s necessary to do family things and something like this in particular. Sorry this will be a hard thing for you.

    • What a lovely memory, Lorna! She sounds wonderful. I’d love to have seen her teach tricks like that. 🙂

      Thanks for the well wishes. 🙂

  • Sorry to hear that your grandmother passed away. All of mine are gone on both sides, but my son still has both his grandparents on mine and his father’s side. My grandparents on my mom’s side where the best. They lived near use, took us on adventures, cooked, and we had such fun. Lots of great memories to remember them by. I’m glad my son got to meet his great-grandpa before he passed in 2016. Take care!

    • Neat that you got to live close to yours and do fun adventures, Angela. Yes, that is a precious gift for your son to have all his close by.

      Appreciate the well wishes.

  • dholcomb1

    Prayers and comfort for your loss. I’ve lost all of my grandparents; my husband has one left and her birthday is next month. 96, I believe.

    denise

    • Thank you, Denise. It’s tough to have them all gone, but I have some precious memories. Wow, 96! 🙂

  • KarenMC

    My condolences on the loss of your grandmother, Sophia. My grandmothers are both gone now – one lived to be 86, one was 93. We lost the last of our grandparents, my husband’s paternal grandmother, just 3 years ago at the age of 95. These women all shaped the woman I became in different, but profound ways. My Granny always called me her baby doll, even after I had children of my own 🙂 My other grandmother was a great reader, and a storyteller. My husband’s grandmother was strong and opinionated, yet full of love.
    I hope you are able to revisit some good memories among all the work that lies ahead. Safe travels!

    • Yes, they really do shape us. I enjoy seeing how yours worked in your life and even your grandmother through marriage. 🙂

      Thanks for the well wishes, Karen. I do anticipate some good memories sharing and hope we can really get a lot done. 🙂

  • I sorry to hear that, Sophia. Your grandma certainly does sound like an interesting woman. Have a safe trip, hon. Hugs.

    • Thanks, Christy! I definitely appreciate the safe trip well wishes.

  • Jasprit

    I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother Sophia, I hope the funeral goes okay! I look forward to reading your posts when you’re back!

    • Very kind of you, Jasprit. 🙂 I’ll have some catching up to do with blog visits and posts when I get back.

  • Karen

    I’m sorry for your loss Sophia.

    I wasn’t super close to my grandmother (my other passed away when I was young and I never knew my grandfathers) but she was feisty! She went skiing well into her 80’s and was always starting new businesses to get rich lol

    For What It’s Worth

    • Oh, what a hoot, Karen. She does sound feisty. That skiing… LOL

  • I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother, Sophia. I hope everything goes ok. Have a safe trip. We’ll be here when you get back. #hugs ❤️

    • Thanks so much, Geybie. I’m hoping for things to go smooth, too.

  • I am sorry to hear about your loss. Your grandma sounded like a wonderful person with a great personality. Good luck with the funeral and clearing out the house.

    My grandma is still alive, my grandpa died a few years ago. As kids we often used to visit. I have fond memories of visiting them. And how we always got sausage breads when we visited (so glad I found a vegetarian variant now as they are so nostalgic to eat). Or how my grandpa was a bit grumpy always, but a nice person too.

    • Oh yes, good memories and I’m glad you have them to store up about them especially the sausage bread. Thanks for your kind words, Lola.

  • oh no…I am so sorry to hear about your loss Sophia!! Your grandmother sounds like a truly wonderful and diverse person. My last grandparent passed away when I was 19. But I sure do miss my grandparents, I was closer to them than even my own parents or siblings. Which is odd I know, but I just bonded with them so much when I was younger. My grandparents on my mom’s side were FUN. My grandfather loved to go to church going 100 miles an hour because he wanted to show us he wasn’t those “slow” grandpa’s and he would chase us around their house all the time hehe he sure was fun. And then my grandmother she was a good match for him and feisty too. She loved romance (like me) and reading in general. She worked on a farm growing up and she would bribe her siblings to do her chores so she could hide in the barn to read hehe definitely like me in that way.

    • What a hoot, Renee! I can see why you were so very close to them. 😉

  • I’m so sorry for your loss. Be with your family and we’ll be here when you get back.

    • I’ll be looking forward to getting back among my book friends, but yes, it will be good to be surrounded by family right now. Thanks, Mary!

  • So sorry to hear. Take care.

    • Thank you, Velvet. Appreciate the kind thoughts.

  • RO

    I’ve lost most of my family, so I totally know how you feel. There will be a perfect piece missing, so I’ll keep you and the family in prayer for healing and strength. I found that when we cleaned out our grandparents and parents home, it brought me closer because we found items or pictures that told stories about their lives or precious memories. Some things made me laugh, and some surprised me, so I tried to treat it like a treasure hunt to get me through. I’m thrilled that you can take the time to be there in Utah, and sometimes unplugging is best. If you need anything, or want to talk please let me know. HUGE Hugs Super Sophia…RO

    • I like your treasure hunt attitude, Ro. Yes, I think it will be a bit like that when we clear out the surface clutter and get to her true precious things from over the years. 🙂 Thank you for your thoughts and prayers, Radiant friend. 🙂

  • Shari Delighted Read

    Sophia,

    I know I expressed my condolances in my email to you, but wanted to let you know she sounded like a wonderful woman.

    My last grandparent passed away when I was pregnant with my son. My paternal grandmother had a stroke and passed away shortly afterwards when I was in high school. Then my maternal grandmother had a stroke and never quite recovered as she also had Dementia. I was pregnant with my oldest at the time. Then my paternal grandfather had a heartattack while driving and died instantly, but his car kept going straight into the Kmart he was shopping at because my father was coming that day to visit. And finally my maternal grandfather that was actually my step-grandfather. I never saw him as anything besides grandpa until my grandmother died and he hooked up a week later with another woman who became his common law wife and ended up cutting us all out of his life.

    While I detailed what happened to them I also want to celebrate the good stuff. My grandparents lived a block from each other. You could see their backyards from each other’s houses. Unfortunately, my parents divorced when I was 4, so it was kind of a tug of war. If one set saw me at the other’s house, then they wanted me to come there. But those were some of the happiest times. I remember my grandmother’s hugs. She was overweight and dyed her hair black. I remember her warm, squishy hugs and it makes me cry wanting one so bad. My other grandmother was a baker and gardener. Her entire backyard was a garden. I canned a lot of vegetables with her and learned to bake. My one grandfather was old and set in his ways. He adored us, but he was very old fashioned. He bought everything with cash and no credit. My other grandfather who taught me bad habits like drinking pickle juice, but he also taught me to dance.

    All these memories make me sad and happy. I can’t imagine growing up without them, but sad because my kids never got to experience grandparents like I did with us not living near any of them.

    Please take comfort that she lived a long life and hopefully it was full of good memories.

    • I love getting the story of your grandparents, Shari. You’re right that there is good and bad blended together in our memories of them. I lived a distance from grandparents, but its funny b/c my parents actually grew up next door to each other and both their families are close to this day though my mom’s folks ended up moving away when they retired. I will enjoy seeing both sides of my family together for the funeral and likely all working to help with the house afterward.

      Thank you for reminding me to take comfort from my memories. 🙂

  • Sophia, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you have a lot of great memories to treasure. I will keep you in my thoughts.

    • I really do have some good ones, Carole. 🙂 Thanks for thinking of me.

  • Will be thinking of yall, Sophia. I’m glad you’re all there to support each other during this time and hope you find comfort in good memories of your grandmom’s long life. My great grandmom that I told you about was a hoarder in her life as well and goodness. While overwhelming it was also sometimes entertaining to find hundreds of panty hose she’d planned to use..some how. Safe travels.

    • A panty hose collection… LOL. Well, either she goes through them quick or she had something nefarious going on. Haha. The last time I visited my nonna she was into dollmaking and her whole back bedroom was full of doll parts. I got the willies just imagining Chucky and the Bride of Chucky going down in that house. LOL

      Thanks, Anna. I’d rather laugh than cry. 😉

      • Oh my gosh. A room of doll bits. Yes, that would give me the willies, too, I think! lol Dolls in general kind of freak me out.

        smh on the panty hose. I *think* she was planning on using them to make potpourri sachets with the hose that got snags in them so they weren’t wasted. She also had garbage bags of pecans from the trees. But no doll bits 😉

        • Ah… now that makes some sense. But man, that would be a ton of sachets.
          And multiple bags of pecans.

          I have a feeling I’ll have some eyebrow-raisers, too. And I’m not volunteering to clean out the back bedroom. 😉