Yakkety Yak Sunday Chat: Love at First Sight or Fate?

Posted May 19, 2013 by Shari in Let's Chat / 0 Comments


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When I started reading many many years ago, love at first sight was more of a rare happening. It was more like lust at first sight and then a story watching the lovers grow. I am not saying it was rare, but I guess I never read a ton of love at first sight books. And twenty years ago, the fated soul mates that appear in paranormal romance wasn’t a big thing.

When I started reading paranormal romances about 7 or so years ago, fated soul mates seemed to be the craze. I fell for it hook, line and sinker. I loved that two people were fated to be lovers and that no one else would do. As I started to mature more in my reading of this genre, I started to wonder where the free will was in that and what would happen if fate was just plain wrong.

Now, there are books that buck the whole fated mate deal. I adore the authors for not making it easy on them any more. While fate may make you soul mates, that doesn’t mean that fate made you actually like or love that person, shifter, vampire, or whatever.

Now I am not slapping down this stream of love at first sight or even fated mates. Every once and a while this really appeals to me when I am looking for a story where these people know what they want, when they want it and they get it. The problem is that almost most of the books I have read lately have been fast paced, where people fall in love within 2-5 days and get a HEA. Huh? While I like that from time to time, in reality I am looking to see these people build a life together that doesn’t end the story after a week.

There are times and places for shorter realities like novellas. But when I am reading a kick ass story and getting into everything, falling in love and living happily forever after in a short times span doesn’t seem real…even if it is a paranormal book.

Now some authors get around the short time span but having the characters know each other for sometime before actually getting together. I still think sometimes this is over used. I can be a friend with someone for years. But falling in love and moving in together isn’t just magical without some time to adjust.

So I find myself even confused as to what I like. Sometimes I want that wam bam let’s be together forever as it renews my hope in love. But then again, I want to see couples who really do take the time to grow and learn to love for a forever after.

So what do you like? Do you believe in love at first sight, or is it lust at first sight? Do you buy all the fated mates/lovers themes? Let’s chat!

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Shari is the Delighted Reader. Married to her Prince Charming and mother to two Princesses and one Prince. When she is not slaving away as Cinderella she loves to get lost in the pages of a good book. Never without a reading device and a few good paperback books, because she never knows when she might get 5 minutes to read!

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9 years ago

I believe in love at first sight and at times I’m not a fan of insta-love stories, but they do (or should I say have to work) in shorts, novella’s, etc.

But I would like to read a story where the relationship grows…where it spans say maybe 2 books?….

I’m not a fan of long drawn out stories either. Idk…maybe it all depends on what the author is trying to convey in their story. If they make it believable…convincing, then I’m all for it.


Sophia Rose
9 years ago

I’m a fan of both ends of the spectrum and things in between. I’ve discovered that it comes down to mood and the author’s ability to convince me the couple is romance material. I’ve read long drawn out romances that didn’t grab me and that goes double for quick ones, but the reverse is true too. I’ll say this- its harder convince me when its love at first sight unless the author does a good job at it.

Fun discussion!

9 years ago

I’m not sure about love at first sight, but I definitely believe in lust at first sight. I think it takes time for you to actually fall in love with someone.